[46] - Pressed Plants
Kissed by sunset
Have you ever took some time to observe the women you pass by on the streets?
I live in Cluj-Napoca, one of the so called developed cities in Romania. And it is, developed infrastructure, many businesses, many office buildings and new apartment blocks and parks, but at times I question where the development of compassion and love lies. The diversity is big here, there are all kind of family situations and ways of living or … surviving.
So back to my question, have you noticed the women around you? As a woman and I am stunned at times at the sight of: burdened, angry, upset, exhausted faces and bodies.
Women burdened by life, by traumas, by lack of love, support, care, bent down, collapsed posture, stressed, petrified upper backs, broad shoulders that had to care for families more than they should have or simply didn’t have who to share the heavy ‘loads’ with. I was upset, because for some, there was no place left for elegance, for freedom to express or move in openness. Crippled by fears, by tensions, tainted by rashes and acne … and at times women looking more like men …
It truly disturbed me..
Understanding women … Do you understand women? Do we understand ourselves as women? These sayings are so cliche for some that they shut their ears when they hear the questions they read just now. It’s not about victimising, it’s not about pointing fingers, it’s about more awareness, love, responsibility, care.
I am angry at the cycle of both men and women hurting, hurting each other, hurting another generation of little ones becoming men and women too.
Where’s the balance? But balance while taking into consideration each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
Where’s true, real love?
When is the competition going to end?
When and how does real compassion begin?
As a woman I’ve seen and felt just how much women give, to their families, children, friends, careers, colleagues … Women give and give, who would tell them ‘hey, you should rest!’, ‘hey, lets do this together’. I wish all women would receive more support, be it friends, family, partner or community.
What if there’s no support?
How will women rise to be fully themselves as women? Taking care of ourselves first? Might play a part, but damn that’s hard at times. Rising from the ashes is always hard.
How can there be so much lack emotionally? I wonder at times …
The groaning pains of a generation that realises it had nothing but survival. If you don’t realise, admit or see this, then of course there’s actually no problem (on the surface). ‘All is good’, ‘This is life’ as they say! Or maybe you are one of the few who’s family thrived and you reap the beauty of that in your life.
However, for most the opposite was the reality and the reality of oh so many generations beforehand! That's how we got here, to this point. When will the powerlessness stop? We can change, and we can make it better. But the pain of the destruction and alienation that happened between sexes is sometimes ruthless. It aches to look reality in its face!
So women, because I work mostly with women as a pilates instructor now, women because i tutored kids and i see families and mothers, women because I am one and it feels so hard at times to be one …
The same women become the most beautiful flowers when at peace, when they are cared for and able to live attuned to their sensitivity.
The same women become contorted under stress, pressure, posture crumbling under the weight of worry, uncertainty or negligence.
I feel like women need to be loved more! Because they truly give so much in return. Imagine the women in your life on their best day! If that could be the norm, this world would be something else!
I am especially talking about the demographic of Romania, I just feel that women have done so many things alone here, they have done a lot of hard stuff, they have endured a lot, especially emotionally. Grand grandmothers, grandmothers, mothers …. i am talking about mental and emotional abuse and negligence, things that all women i ever met have gone trough in different shapes and forms.
So keeping all these aspects before my eyes while hoping for a better future, and a more beautiful direction in the world and families all around, today’s designs are dedicated to the women, their beauty, elegance and sensibility and my hope that we can all heal and live our radiant true selves.
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